Abuse or Relationship Issues?
Not attainable. He's drinking, he promised to stop and did it again to the point of being drunk again after your big baby-related party, he's doing phone stuff with other women, he has physically hurt you twice (have you ever been told that battery is a crime?), he says he will stop and doesn't, booze has a stronger hold on him than you do, and acting like an irresponsible teenager means more to him than being an adult. This is the real person you have. It is not a profile of Prince Charming. All that you have to suggest everything will be all right is your dream that he will be an active participant in being "a happy family" together with you. This is you being enamored of a fantasy, not the real person in your life who you know full well behaves towards you in ways that frankly should have gotten him thrown in jail.
Trying to create a long-term relationship or marriage only because a baby accidentally got started is not enough, I'm sorry to say. Delightful as it is when a baby comes to a mature couple who have already made a lifelong commitment and worked out how they relate to each other and are very happy with how they relate and interact, those things don't come from the baby. You don't say that before the pregnancy you two were soul mates and knew this was it and you were going to be happy together forever. You more or less said "We got along and we got pregnant and figured what the heck, let's try it." Babies are big stressors, and your hopefully ex-boyfriend is showing he caves big time under pressure and probably was never that serious about being monogamous with you even before the pregnancy.
Sorry, dear, but you run not walk from this guy. You talk to a lawyer about child support and if your guy wants anything good from you he grows up. Don't trust his tears and pleas, that is one thing alcoholics are super good at, manipulation. It's their bread and butter.
See a counselor if you don't believe me. Don't be an enabler to this jerk. Every drinker needs his co-dependent, get past that one fast. Your baby is not deserving of this unreliable guy and you making excuses for him. Read More At : ...