Son with Autism, New Baby on the way
Ahh, well congrats on the baby. You've perhaps had him or her by now!
I think the key is supervision. I had a 15 month old and a newborn--- so some things were the same. Without meaning to, my toddler could hurt the baby. So, you keep the baby with you, use the word 'gentle' with your autistic step son, and guide him. You don't want him to squeeze and hug the baby (something my pediatrician told me as while giving that type of love, babies can get hurt)--- so you teach them how to pat their feet, put their hand so baby can hold THEIR finer, gentle kisses on top of the head and basically, doing a lot of talking with the child. Your baby will LOVE watching him. My babies all loved older cousins and would laugh and laugh.
So, you keep baby close to you at all times and then have a rule about not going into baby's room without a grown up so you can put baby down without fear.
Something else my pediatrician did was have me say to the baby "okay baby,, you have to wait a minute, it's brother's turn now." The baby didn't care (wouldn't pick when the baby was crying to do this). And then the brother would feel like "hm, okay, baby gets turns and I get turns for mom's attention too". So, when you tell him that he has to wait a minute for you to do some baby care, he'll not feel like it is always about the baby.
I have two sons. My oldest has sensory integration disorder. My younger son has seen him (a gazillion times) at his worst, has been the target of bad behavior, has spent countless hours at his brother's therapy sessions in the waiting room . . and yet, they are the best of friends. He adores his big brother. :>) good luck to you Read More At : ...