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Sexual abuse HELP!

My two almost three year old told me that her uncle (my 15 year old brother) made her suck his penis, I am so heart broken ! I called my mom right away and asked to talk to him about it and she said he complely denies it and even said he would take a lie detector test. It kills me not knowing  , I believe my daughter but I also don't want to accuse my brother without knowing the truth. What do I do. My daughter seems fine she said nothing happend to her, should I put her in counseling?

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help for someone who has been sexually abused

There is a thread on this site for people who have been sexually abused.  You will probably find more help there. Good Luck
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Sexually Abused

Its an obvious that she doesnt have contact with the abuser, it sounds like a lot has been done I would suggest now it is time to back off, too much talk will make her more anxious. So let time do some healing, less talk now ,time to let it go ,then she will feel better about what happened .let the counsellor do her job.It is great that she has you supporting her as an older sister .Good luck
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Do you not trust the daughter?  You should follow that (the alleged abuse) up.  Either way she possibly needs counseling. It's possible that the daughter has learned some maladaptive behaviors from her mother.  She may have engaged in risky impulsive behavior or she may feel that she is so worthless it is OK for people to take advantage of her. The daughter may have 'inherited' the condition from her mother.  Living in an invalidating and rejecting environment could leave her emotionally scarred and vulnerable. Are you or your husband not able to discern whether she is being truthful or not?  Either way you are hurting her.  She is asking for and needing support.  You need to resolve this abuse issue. You should set limits on the calling.  I would not accept this level of contact from her.  It is inappropriate.  If she has issues then she should see a doctor or therapist. You could also set boundaries around when it is and isn't OK to call.  For example, you could allow contact in emergencies and prearranged visitations (with boundaries). Don't tip-toe around the mother.  She will probably sense this and it could intensify her emotions.  Be consistent, be honest, don't judge her, be sensitive and respectful towards her, etc but don't let her dictate how you behave. You don't mention the ages of the children.  It will be traumatic for them but a stable environment will be very beneficial for them. Are there other issues?  Perhaps you could look at either individual or family counseling. Put a stop to the phone calls.  That should eliminate some of the more immediate stress and give you some space to think.  If you're concerned about the welfare of the mother you could also help her to get support.  It depends on whether you want to make that your problem or not. Structure, consistency, transparency and predictability can all be useful and can eliminate some stress.  That doesn't mean not being spontaneous though, because that can also be good. J
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What Is Wrong With Me?

Hello JR, I'm sorry to read of your many struggles through childhood.  Many of us have had similiar situations and have tried our best to manage through the years.  May I suggest first and foremost that if you have not seen a family cousler I would reccomend it.   I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress last year with the dealth of my Grandfather who I took care of for two years.  I began having panic attacks and depression.  I chose to seek out a wonderful counsler who I have worked with now for sime time.  I have found that not only have I faced my Grandfathers death but have also found that loosing my mother to Cancer at twelve was the brunt of most of my emotional problems.  I am learning to cope with my past by talking, journaling, attending church and taking medication to help with the anxiety. Facing your past can be very scary and very emotional but once you do you are able to move forward and deal with new challenges that come your way.  I'm not a doctor and these are simply suggestions but it does sound like you are struggling currently with anxiety.  Seek counsel and help.  Spend some time looking for a cousler and perhaps a Psychiatrist that you feel comfortable with.  They are there to help and give you advice on the best way to deal with anxiety   Be Well, Laura
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Is this a mental disorder? how can I help myself?

It's not uncommon for people to have depression after sexual abuse. Have you ever thought about counseling? I think it would really help to talk to someone about what happened to you. You did absolutely nothing wrong. Your uncle did.
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Now i know aftercare is a must

wow james you sound wonderful. so many positive things going for you. my eyes are filled with tears of joy and happiness for you. there is definitely a much better life waiting for you and your family being clean. my husband has been clean 1 year yesterday and the healing that has taken place in him, me, our children and our family as a whole is nothing short of miraculous. structure is definitely a big part of my husbands recovery, he works, exercises,reads his bible, spends time with the family and volunteers at a drug and alcohol program, goes to church.  you need to fill your life with positive things. the therapy is so important it will get you to the root of your demons and your reason for wanting to use. you need to heal and forgive things from your childhood. i pray much peace, love and happiness over you and your family. Blessings to you, debbie
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secretly hiding sexual abuse

And my cousin said if someone found out I had to take the blame. Now to this day I love my cousin but I have alot of hate in my heart because of it. she never said sorry we all act as if it never happened. I have alot of guilt for lettng it happen to my bestfriend and the things she made me do to her. I don't like to talk about it and im afraid if I bring it up only lord knows what pain I caused her. I've also taken this anger out on others. I'm holding on to all of this alone and I never told my parents.
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bipolar and confusion

Welcome aboard. The first thing you need to do is stop drinking.  Alcohol and drugs are the worst thing in the world for bipolars b/c it makes all of our depression, panic, and anxiety a million times worse. The second thing you need to do is get to a psychiatrist or therapist as soon as you possibly can.  In most states now they have free mental health care for ppl who can't afford it.  Call a help line in CA or contact a local health dept and they should be able to direct you in the right direction or even set it up for you. Sounds as if regression therapy might be in order, but I'm not very trusting of this.  Never had it done even though I've considered it, b/c I too have a lot of my childhood missing in memory.  But I've seen it done so many times on TV where they are leading the pt in the direction they want them to go and make them remember things that didn't really happen.   But possibly if you got on the right meds and stayed on them--this is paramount to your being a well person--you might be surprised at how much you don't really care what happened back then or you might remember some of it and it won't be anything bad.  I did that when I finally got on meds. I have a lot of the night time panic attacks like you are talking about when my meds start to not work or when I need a higher dose.  But if you are a heavy drinker or alcoholic that can bring it on the anxiety all the time.  Been there, done that. There really is something wrong with you, don't ever doubt that and you do need help right away.  Remember that you deserve only the best of everything and don't settle for any less.   Bipolar disorder causes a lot of self-worth problems and the public only reinforces them.  It is a disease like diabetes.  If you were diabetic would you take your meds and do what you are suppose to, or would you do whatever you wanted and take the chance of losing a leg as you become blind?  Same difference.  The bipolar can destroy you if you don't take your meds and be really good to yourself so you can get well. Good luck to you and know you aren't alone.  There are a lot of us out here and there are a lot of success stories like me.  :-)
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yesterday, stress levels off the charts, of course left cleaning til last minute and ended up wrecked before some of family even arrived. had about four hours sleep last night so i hope today will be better.
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