My 8 year old is telling big lies
I don't know, Mom. My middle son was kind of the same way, and I couldn't tell at ALL when he was lying. He's matured now and knows the value of a good reputation, but all through elementary and middle school I wouldn't take up for him with his teachers because I was sick and tired of going to them with a concern only to find out my son had completely twisted the whole thing around and then I felt like a fool. I found out much later that a couple things I wish I had brought to teacher's attention - but like the boy who cries wolf, how can you tell?
I would say to him, are you SURE you're telling me the truth, because I'm going to call the school and talk to your teacher, I won't be mad if you tell me right now you're making this up. He'd stand there and insist it was all true - he turned in a paper on time but it was written in the wrong color pen, I forget all the other **** he said. I finally stopped taking his word, and just let him work out his own stuff if he was having a problem, and I'd tell him you know what, I can't tell when you're lying and telling the truth, so I'm not going to embarrass myself again. If you want to have the teacher call me to work this out, please do, I'm not calling them though.
In high school, he finally got it. If you screw up, no big deal, just admit it, and if you've been wronged and need help tell the truth about it.
My other two boys, I could always tell when they were lying.
I guess my advice would be to call the principal right NOW and leave a message on the answering machine and also call very first thing to pre-empt the call to you and say sorry it was all made up. And tell your son that if he ever does this again, ever, you're done taking his side with the school even though in the years to come he'll need an advocate. And I think I'd have him write a note to the principal apologizing for lying.
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