hello and welcome. i understand your frustration,anger,hurt,sadness and feeling of helplessness. living with an addict can be all consuming.
you see the devasation and the havoc it is causing,yet them seem oblivious to it.
denial,mood changes,abusive,deceit,lie are all part of the cycle of addiction. you are right he has to make the decision to stop. the first step is to admit he has a problem, to himself and then to you.
how long should you wait for that to happen? that is up to you. begging,pleading,crying,arguing,threatening doesnt work. it will just cause you to get more frustrated and angry.
when he comes home and is abusive, dont talk to him,leave the room,leave the house. just get away from him. do you have a clergymen you can talk to? i would suggest you attend alanon meetings.
here is the link
many times we become enablers. we can become just as sick as them. addiction is a family disease. we have to learn not to live in their addiction.
alanon provides support from others who have lived with or are living with addicts. there is so much to learn about addiction.
how long have you been married? how long has he been drinking?
there is hope... keep the faith..
sending support and encouragement
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