Social Anxiety Disorder - It Can't Be Just Me
Awwww hun, trust me you are not alone in the way you feel, i know people can be so utterly confusing and too dam scary.... trust is the thing that ties people together and if you find it hard to trust people and you are even a tiny bit different from everyone else then it makes the world a very lonely, scary place to be.
People within society are always looking to fit into a group and be accepted, it is the basic instinct within us, and within that group there is an expectation of how you should act, dress, speak etc..... , an upper class business woman would feel totally uncomfortable and out of place trying to be one of the 'girls' within a gang of ganster hoodies who come from a lower class city. What i'm trying to say to you is it would be best for you to look for people who are similar to yourself, people who are also quiet, don't try to interact with those who are loud and extravert as it will put too much pressure upon yourself to try to be someone you are not and this will just cause the problem to become worse.
So next time you are within a group of people, just take time to have a look at who is there, take in their body language, if they are quiet, not keen to talk, if their arms are crossed or their head is lowered with legs pulled into themselves or tucked under the chair, or if they sit towards the back in hope that no one will see them then they are more likely to be passive, introverted people. Make a note of those people and go sit next to them, maybe you could say a little 'hi' to them to break the ice and see what happens from there. Trust me they will proberly be just as nervous as you!
As for helping yourself it may be a good idea to arrange to see a counsellor or a therapist who can teach you techniques to boost your self-esteem, as it is extremely low at the moment. Self help books can be good but they don't work for eveyone, especially if the problem is complex and i personally feel you really need some strong, sound support by your side to answer all those questions you really need answering and someone to help your confidence and teach you more about people.
Also have you thought about maybe doing a psychology course? Or a sociology course? Learn more about how and why people act he way they do, this will open up your mind and teach you not only about others but also more about yourself.....
Anyway, if you ever want a chat about anything please personal message me, i will be here as a friend to you, internet friends is so much easier to form i feel, as you can express how you feel without the face to face interaction so cut out alot of the anxiety. Hope you found some usefulness from this and take care....... remember your not alone! Read More At : ...